What
would be more important for you between your job and your family? Will you
consider first the ones you love who beg you to stay by their side or will you
help the ones in need who cries for your aid? Being in that situation had never
been easy. You may only have two options. First is to set aside your responsibility
as a leader that may lead into a defeat but knowing that you have your family
with you. The second one is to go on to the combat that may or may not lead you
to success and fatality. That kind of situation often happens to conquerors. Two
of them are Aeneas and Hector who are both great heroes of their times. Aeneas
was in deep sorrow and was in rage that he wants to go in battle with the
Greeks. But his wife Creusa begs him that he must save their lives
first before anyone else. She continued begging for herself and her son's safety.
Her feelings of being a wife and a mother over power her that time. Aeneas
seeing his wife acting that way considers her. He listened to Creusa and he
prioritized his family first before anyone else and flee with them.
On
the other hand Hector who was going to brawl with Achilles was asked by his
wife Andromache to not go into combat anymore. Andromache begs him to stay by
her side with his son because if he dies in the battle, no one will be left
with her and Astyanax since her father and brothers were already killed by
Achilles. Hector considers the request of his wife but then he insists to
go on combat because it is his responsibility. Although Hector thinks of his
family, he still prioritized his fellow men, because he thinks that it is his destiny
and the will of the Gods for him. There are a lot of things in common and in
contrast between the stories of Aeneid and Iliad. First, they have the same
scene where in the wife of the two heroes asked them to stay by their side and
don't go into combat anymore. Creusa prevents Aeneas from having revenge
during the Trojan War and Andromache begs Hector to not go into battle with
Achilles. Secondly, they differ because the other one refuses to listen to his
wife while one considers his wife's request. Aeneas turned his back to the war
and chose his family over his obligation while Hector prefers to go in combat
than to stay with his family, he chose his responsibilities rather than his
loved ones.
We
cannot judge anyone of them. Both of them just did what they think is right. For
a soldier, a leader and a hero, one must swear to do his obligation sincerely
and make it as his top priority. But a family must also be one of the things that
he needs to consider. Decision making is certainly a tough thing to do, you
must always read between the lines, you must always consider the ones involve
and you must always accept whatever your choice will end up into.

